God gave you a mouth to...

The Simple Formula to making a relationship work. Communication and Honesty. Love is already a given. Honesty is another blog. COMMUNICATION. Lets say it one more time people. COM-U-NI-CATION.

For some reason or the other, friends or lovers, people just do not know how to communicate with each other. You could have the 2 most intellectual people in the world. But for some reason when emotions are involved 2 people can't seem to TRY to understand each other. All because people feel before they listen. You could be completely right. You can talk to someone untill your blue in the face. That person is not going to hear anything your saying if they are not listening. It takes 2 people to have a conversation. One talking and one listening is not communicating. One talking and one trying to understand what one is SAYING is communicating.

I've lost so many friends because of the lack of communication. People get mad at one another for things said inbetween different people and never for 1 second think to go to the source. What do they do? They get mad, let the tension build up till its about to blow through the roof, and either A. Fight or B. stop speaking all together. When it could have all been resolved with 1 conversation. You'd be amazed at what opening your mouth could do. "Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see". It seems these days that people believe whatever they hear, and if they see it, well then they just KNOW the entire story. Enough to go run and tell all their friends. Who will tell their friends. Kinda like when Chris Brown and Rihanna had their scuffle. Everyone "HEARD" Rihanna hit Chris Brown 1st. Which gave him a free pass to beat her face in. Right. Chris never said it. Rihanna said she DIDN'T. But thats not what you "heard". So it must have happened! She had to hit him 1st! I heard he's nice! I heard she's a bitch! He's a star! He can dance! He's sexy! She's mean! She has herpies! I saw it on her lip! He couldn't have just clicked out and went crazy on her! Not my friend Chris Brown! Riiiighttttttt...

What i've realized is over the years is that communication comes with maturity. The older i get, the better i become at communicating with people. I've always been a little mature for my age as far as communicating. When i was a kid, i couldnt communicate with other children. So i just followed my mother around all day. I dreaded school. Acting interested in talking about sesame street and lamb chops. I was such a dick. I remember i told everyone their is no possible way a big fat white man with a beard could slid that big belly down, idk, 20 billion Chimneys in a matter of what, 10 hours? Nobody believed me. They didn't LISTEN. And then they would come to school crying when they found out old Fatty wasn't real. I told you so stupid! I always thought other kids were so dumb and did such silly things. Like who touches hot stoves or walk around glass with no shoes on their feet. If you parents TOLD you don't do it, why are you doing it? See, the lack of listening is why you have glass stuck in your foot, or a burned finger. I never could understand why it's so hard for people to communicate with each other. You explain your point of view, i explain mine, and in a reasonable tone. We listen to each other and...omg...look what happened? Problem solved!!! Congratulations! You 2 humans just accomplished what a flock of 50 birds do everyday! Your so smart!

Listen to your boyfriend or girlfriend people. LISTEN to their problem. Understand their problem (or try to). And then explain yours. And do it...i know this might be hard..but for God's Sake....do it without rolling your eyes or raising your voice. You'll be together so much longer. I promise.

Of course untill the cheating starts. But thats a different blog.