You Can't Sit With Us.

Ya know, they say you never really leave high school. It's true.

As functioning adults i think it is pretty much a daily part of life to deal with people who you really don't "see it for". You don't like them. Or like a friend of mine sometimes says "I don't USE her." Not everyone is meant to be friends. People have different personalities, different upbringings, and some people are just plain crazy. But because we must act as adults, who are NOT in high school anymore, we have to work/ socialize with people who we simply don't like. I don't see it for MANY people who I'm forced to socialize with on the weekends. Just like I'm sure some of them may not see it for me. Which is completely fine. I'm not here for your approval. Just like your not here for mine. That doesn't mean we can't sit down at the same table and be civil. We don't need each others numbers. We don't have to hang out alone. We may not even hang out again! But we can be cordial. We are human beings.

It seems that the difficulties arise when its the friends who have stopped being friends. Now, in high school, we all know how this would have went. The most powerful (and good looking) person of the clique was who owned your loyalty. If the Regina didn't see it for you, well then the rest of us don't either. Period. You can't sit with us. Have a great day. And if your lucky, we WON'T make your life a living hell. Go find some new (lame and ugly) friends. Problem solved.

In the adult world it doesn't really go like that. I personally, use the Art of Effective Shade Throwing. A few weeks ago, I was forced to sit at a bar for 3 hours with 1 of the only 3 people in the whole world, who I HATE with a burning fiery passion. The entire time i wanted to jump across the table and slap all the saliva out of his mouth. But i didn't. Because I'm an adult, and "You can't just be fighting in the streets like a wild animal!" like my mother told me after a brawl I had 2 years ago at a Super Bowl party. Besides, who really wants to be the asshole who has a problem with EVERYONE. No one wants to be around that kind of person. Anyhow, It was 4 of us, including him at the bar. We talked around each other the entire night. We all engaged in conversation. I didn't roll my eyes or make any sly remarks. I never looked him directly in his face. I never spoke directly to him, nor did he dare speak directly to me. It went fine. Of course anytime he did in fact try to ask me a question directly i answered it, but only in a manner in which it was directed towards the whole group. And I still did NOT make eye contact with him.

When we left my friend said "I thought you and _____ didn't like each other?" and i said "Its whatever, we just don't speak." That's commonly the best response to give when regarding to an ex-friend. Anything more then that will make you look bitter, and probably start some kind of mess. People don't need details. Its none of your business. Save the gossip and innuendo for your real friends.

The next day, the 1 guy of the 3 people in the WHOLE world who i HATE with a fiery passion, who i had sat at the bar with.... sent me a Facebook friend request. I declined. You still can't sit with us.

Moral of the story is, we aren't here to "beef" with people. That's to time consuming, and its rather juvenile. The only person who your loyalty should be to is your REAL friends. (If you don't have one of those at this age then your probably crazy. get help.) We're grown. Contrary to popular belief, we can all get along. Not everyone has to be friends, or even associates, but there is no reason why 2 adults should dislike each other so much that they can't be around each other in a social setting. That's just part of the life of a grown up. Your going to have bosses you don't like, co-workers you can't stand, and friends who have friends who are just complete train wrecks. Your going to have to deal with that. There's no need to be rude. There's no need to be ugly. We can co-exist, and still hate each other. Besides, when it really gets rough, just take to twitter, subtweet your ass off, wait for the hit dog to holler, and once they do (and trust me they will) then...don't respond. Your point has been made, and received. Works like a charm. And a sure way to put a smile on your face.

Again, The Art of Effective Shade Throwing.

"Inspired" VS "COPIED"

Sunday on the Billboard Music Awards, sometime after a sleeping Britney Spears and a stiff Rihanna took the stage, Beyonce delivered one of the best performances of her career. I won't go into detail. You can view the amazing-ness above. Well not even 24 hours later this video hit the net.



Of course the Beyonce Stans launched a full attack on any blogger who dared post the video. At first i joined suite, but then i after reading an article posted on yahoo (HERE) about the amazing performance i kind of changed my mind. In the article Beyonce's team openly admits that they did in fact draw "inspiration" from the Italian singer, Lorella Cucarrini's performance, and sought out the same graphic designer who did it. Just like she drew "inspiration" from Chicago and added The Cell Block Tango to one of her tours. Just like she drew "inspiration" from a you tube video for her Single Ladies video. Beyonce is so heavily inspired that it makes me actually sit down and question The Queen. What is the difference between "inspiration" and just a down right dirty ol copy cat.

I know all artist draw inspiration from each other. Its no mystery that Lady Gaga is heavily inspired by Madonna. Beyonce's performance style is heavily inspired by Tina Turner. Ciara has mentioned time and time again shes inspired by Janet Jackson. Nicki Minaj....we won't even go there. So whats the difference between being inspired by someone, and trying to BE someone. I remember when Rihanna dyed her hair black and cut it all off, Kelis fans (whoever they may be) had an absolutely conniption fit, like Kelis is the only person allowed to cut her hair. When Rihanna found a new and improved stylist, Kelis claimed to have done that 1st to. The 1st to find a new stylist? I guess girl.

In my opinion, everyone is inspired by something. But you must put your own twist to it, to make it a little bit more original. Beyonce made the Single Ladies video her own. Yes she did see three old white women doing a full out dance routine filmed in 1800 BC. But she added many of her own elements to the video that kind of made it HERS. The intricate choreography. The black and white aspect. The hair style. The matching leotards. I know it doesn't seem like much, but think back to Halloween 2009 when you saw all the fat girls in the leotards...who were they trying to be? You get my point? She made it her own. I can respect that.

We all know anything you can do, Beyonce can do better. That's a given. But i felt like the video above did make me stop and think. Sometimes, i go back and forth. Was it "inspiration" or was it "copying". The graphics used we not left up to her, the designer decided on those. So the similarities as far as that goes, the designer takes full responsibility for. But i honestly feel because Beyonce is placed on a pedestal in the industry, and because seriously ANYTHING YOU CAN DO, SHE CAN DO BETTER, we give her a pass sometimes. And i believe we do that because we believe it will t take away from her greatness as an artist. She's still the greatest performer alive, and definitely one of the most talented women in the industry. But there is a very thin line between inspiration and copying, and Beyonce is dancing on it a little to often (in 6 inch heels and singing at the same time). At the end of the day it just gives the haters a reason to question her greatness.

I firmly believe there is nothing new under the sun. Everything has been done before. So the difference between reinventing something and making it your own vs copying, i guess it's up to the viewer. Many people will argue me down about the Single Ladies video that it was in fact a carbon copy. I don't think so, but you may. So i guess it's left up to the viewer. Its all opinion. Beyonce never seems phased. Neither does Rihanna. Neither does Lady Gaga. Even the great Michael Jackson has been accused of being "overly inspired" by someone. Hell, who knew he didn't invent the moon walk?

Why Stopped Going To Church.

Its only natural that as you get older you begin to question some things that you were taught growing up. One of the best things about adult hood is that you get to make your own decisions, and choose what and what not you want to believe in. And you don't have to answer to anybody.

I was raised in a very religious home. I went to a baptist church uptown EVERY Sunday, rain or shine, sick or well. My mother was (and still is) the Minister of Music. Up at 8 am for Sunday School, till the service started at 11:30. It ended somewhere between 1 and 2:30 pm. Then I would have to go around and kiss all my "Aunts" like i didn't see them last Sunday, socialize, and smile. You know how it goes, it's an all day event.

I always questioned the little things, that to me, never made any sense or could be applied to things of this time period. Like sex before marriage :What if you never get married? Are you not to have sex? Divorce: I mean seriously, shit happens. What if you marry Ike Turner? But the straw that broke the camels back had to be the views on homosexuality.

I know the Bible is here to show us how to live a good and straight forward life in the eyes of God. Now i consider myself a rather logical person. I'm always down to hear the other person's point of views. I like things that make me question my own thoughts and beliefs. So i went to my Pastor about this issue about 5 or 6 years ago.

"Why are homosexuals going to hell?"

"It's not of God." My pastor responded. "God mad man to lie with a woman. Its a sin"

"So how do they get to heaven?"

"They must repent son. They must leave that blasphemous lifestyle alone and find Jesus. Repent and be baptized."

"But...if they didn't CHOOSE this lifestyle, how are they to leave it alone?"

"God doesn't make mistakes. Prayer and guidance can deliver anyone from a homosexual demon."

"But why is it a sin? Its not hurting anyone?"

"Its not of God. Its not how God intended man to live."

The conversation didn't really phase me. Every answer was pretty much what i figured it would be. Prayer. God. The usual. The bible speaks against Lying. Cheating. Killing. Stealing. And homosexuality. I can understand why lying, cheating, killing, and stealing are considered a SIN. To do any of them, would involve hurting someone else. They all require malicious and devious acts. Being gay doesn't require any. So why being gay a sin? Because the bible says so. And on top it being a SIN, it's not a choice. You choose to lie. You choose to cheat. You choose to kill. You choose to steal. You don't choose what your attracted to. You don't choose who you love. I'm sure if it was a choice, MANY would take the easier route, and choose to be straight. Life is hard enough. I don't know anybody who would choose to be gay. Who would choose to be judged and ridiculed, looked at funny, and constantly reminded that they are going to hell.

So after a few debates with my pastor, WE came to the conclusion that the only way a gay person is making it to God's Big House in the Sky is by simply "choosing" not to live the "gay" lifestyle. To live your life, alone, unhappy, and praying that one day, you will miraculously find the opposite sex attractive. There is NO other way. God does NOT allow gay people in heaven. PERIOD. While the girl who had her baby out of wed lock, says sorry Jesus, gets some holy water sprinkled on her head, and she's all in. Makes perfect sense.

I'm 26 years old. I know i have a lot more living to do. But i know this for sure: Your given one life. Just one. And you have to live it the best way you know how. Life is to short to being trying to fix something that was never broken. And I'm done trying to make sense of things that never made sense in the beginning. The Bible is a book of morals, but at the end of the day, morals are the same as opinions. You can't make me agree with your morals, just like i can't make you agree with mine. As long as your not harming anyone, your fine by me. Unfortunately, the Bible doesn't agree. And that's perfectly fine.

I had a friend who was atheist. He'll argue you down with scientific facts that God isn't real. I'm not here to try to convince you he's right. Nor do i agree with him. I believe in God. And i have my own personal relationship with him. But i also believe that the concept of "religion" is man made, and was made in order to instill morals in us human beings. I can't say where the world would be if the Bible never existed, but i can guess it would be a pretty hectic place. Just like it is now. Humans are not animals. We don't kill to survive or eat. So i can't imagine how much different it would be.

I have a gay friend who goes to church faithfully. Every Sunday (and Wednesday for Bible Study). He's even attempted to "be straight" in order to please Jesus. Granted, i don't judge people for their personal decisions, i can't help but to feel sorry for them. Children are killing themselves because the Bible says they are going to hell for something they have no control over. Because the world won't accept them for reasons that can't be explained aside from "Because its not of God." These people, with the same kind of human blood coursing through there veins, aren't allowed to marry who they love, like some kind of mutant, ALL because America believes in this book of morals that speaks against their life style. With no reason to support it. Meanwhile we have reality shows where people get married just to be on television and a check. Drunk people are getting married for fun in Vegas at the little chapel down the street.

Like I said before, I consider myself a very logical person. I do try my very hardest to see the other side of every argument. But you Christians really have me stumped on this. Especially with the ones with the broken hymen or 2 year old child...but no wedding ring. So you can keep your Bible. And your morals. And your Preacher in his big body Benz, telling people how to live their life. Until the Bible receives an update, you can have your religion to. I'll fend for myself. That's why i stopped going to church.

Poor Pussy Management.

So here we have a uniquely beautiful girl named Amber Rose. She was the girlfriend of foul mouth super star asshole, Kanye West. We thought this girl was going to be the next Kim Kardashian. I mean she was all over the blogs, making all kinds of appearances, taking Fashion Week by storm, all because she was Kanye's beautiful bald headed barbie doll. She definitely could have capitalized off of her new found fame. Just like Kim K did with her sex tape. But instead what did Ms. Rose decide to do? Well 1st, Kanye dumped her. But she's famous enough now to do something with her name. But does she? Of course not. She runs around for about 6 months with a bunch of different male celebrities, makes out with some video girl, gains 20 pounds, and finally decides to settle down with some boy with a blond striek of hair in his head. Now she randomly gives these "I don't know why people think I'm a hoe." speeches whenever some random radio host decides to lend a helping hand and act like she's still relevant. She hasn't a clue why people would assume shes a hoe, when she's photographed with a different man every other week. Making out with video girls in front of the paparazzi, and walking around Miami top less. No clue at all. This, is a prime example of poor pussy management.

For some reason or the other beautiful girls don't understand how "blessed" they are to be beautiful. I say "blessed" because being beautiful is a gift from God. Everyone is not beautiful. You can listen to that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" bull, but the fact of the matter is there is a general perception of what "beautiful" is today. And not everyone meets it. It sucks, and i'm sorry that i have to be the bearer of bad news, but it's very true. You won't find a man on this earth who doesn't find Halle Berry attractive. And if you do, that same man will either find Fantasia Barrino attractive, or.... Will Smith. it just is, what it is. Beauty is a blessing. Capitalize off of your gift.

Beautiful girls have the advantage that other girls don't. Men will put up with a little more bull shit from the beautiful girl. Men treat the beautiful girl better. Men are LESS likely to leave the beautiful girl (not cheat, but actually LEAVE). Now this only applies if you MANAGE YOUR PUSSY PROPERLY.

Here's how NOT to manage your pussy:

1. Don't fuck every boy you meet. We're all adults. We have sex. I understand that, as most men will. But when way to many guys can say they've "hit that".....you loose value. QUICKLY. No man wants a girl who his friend, friend's cousin, friend's cousin's bestfriend, and step daddy, done "hit". It is a double standard, but again, this comes with being a woman. Not everyone deserves to get your "goodies". Have some respect girl. I know temptation can be rough, but think about the lasting effects. You look good! Know your worth!

2. Sleeping with lames only lowers your stock. By lames i mean men who aren't worth shit. No car. No Job. Lives with his momma. But at every party every weekend. How hard do you think Kanye West is laughing at Amber Rose when he sees pictures of her all out of shape in some sketchers walking around with that skinny boy with the blond thing in his head? She looks like she has a buffet in her back yard. And he looks like he's never been to one. If you with a man who isn't worth shit, that speaks volumes about your self-esteem.

3. Stop telling people your business. Your business, is YOUR BUSINESS. What you do, only you need to know. Keep your shit tight. if you don't know where i'm going with this, you've probably already talked to much have been managing your pussy poorly.

Here's How to Manage your Pussy Properly:

1. Don't EVER, get caught slipping. You have a reputation to uphold. On those days that you just don't feel like making your self look decent, don't feel like combing your hair, or getting dressed....stay home. The moment someone sees you looking a MESS, the word will spread. Your stocks will plummet.

2. Be independent. Ladies have no idea how attractive that is. The only men who don't think it's attractive are the ones who are self conscious and want you to depend on him to make him feel like a man. Besides, when your independent, it will make the man act like less of an ass. See, when you "need" him, he can do whatever he wants. But if he knows you can drop him like a bad habit and keep it moving on to the next, he has to stay on his shit. It almost is like a motivational thing. If your on your shit, only a man who's on his shit will be able to keep up.

3. Be mysterious. Men are curious by nature. That's half of the reason why we cheat so much. It rouses interest when we see someone we've never seen before. And when we ask "What's her background" and the usual response is "I don't know." well that just makes us even hungrier. You know men are thirsty. Like dogs.

The fact of the matter is most women don't know how much power they could have if they just managed their pussy properly. Amber Rose at the height of her fame, easily could have gotten a reality show. Wrote a book about her troubled life like Toya Carter did. Gotten some endorsements. SOMETHING! She was already a plus size model! But she didn't. She fell off. Gained weight, now she's sleeping with that boy WITH THAT BLOND STRIEKE...smh. Poor. Pussy. Management.

Some examples of Proper Pussy Management:

Kobe Bryant's Wife Vanessa Bryant. A prime example of where being beautiful can get you.

Kim Kardashian. Beautiful girl, who's claim to fame was a sex tape. Now she makes 10 mill a year and took her whole family with her to the top. That's some proper pussy management!

Beyonce Knowles. Obvious reasons, she locked down one of greatest rapper alive. Can you imagine how many hoes Jay-Z's ugly ass had? But he decided to marry her. He's Jay-Z.

Lala Vasquez. Everyone gave her shit for being engaged for 6 years and nobody thought she would be married. Now look at her. Career at an all time high and married to a man who just signed a 60 million dollar contract.


Some Examples of Poor Pussy Management:

Amber Rose. (see above) She'll be back stripping by next year.

Christina Milian. She married The Dream, who clearly doesn't like women, and signed a prenuptial agreement. Girl, nap time.

Cassie. Everyone knows shes sleeping with Diddy. Yet, he still won't give her a 2nd album. Her relevancy is next to none (unless you blog).

Now i'm not saying be a gold digger (even though that is always the best choice: read all women should be gold diggers), I'm simply saying know your worth. If you have a good job, a car, and your own home, nothing is wrong with expecting the same out of a potential mate. Why would you WANT to date someone who has less? You moving backwards in life. Poor Pussy Management.

Listen up Angry Black Man....

In 2005 Hurricane Katrina caught everyone in the city of New Orleans off guard and ram shacked our city with way to much wind, and a lot more water. My home, all my clothes, and my beautiful 1997 Gold Expedition all drowned as a result. Fast forward a few months later, my parents up and decided to buy me a new car. So we went to the Toyota Dealership. After much yelling screaming and eventually..crying, they bought me a brand new 2005 Scion. Not the nice 2 door one. No, that would have been to nice of them. The XA. The ugly 4 door hatchback. So ugly I named it Celie. One of the most depressing days of my life.

I drove Ms Celie for 5 years. 5 long years. Until February of 2011 when I decided i wanted something new. I work hard, why not? I bought myself a brand new silver 2011 Camaro. I named her Buffy, Buffy The Body. And i love her.

I've had Buffy for almost 2 full months now. I've been pulled over by the cops at least 5 times in those 2 months. Running red lights? Nope. Speeding? Nope (i'm actually still trying to adjust to how fast it is, so i RARELY go above 50). I have all the appropriate tags and everything else a car should have to AVOID getting pulled over. But for some reason the police STILL find the need to pull me over. And every time, the cop just so happens to be white. They search my car. Frisk me. Run my license. Check my insurance. The whole nine yards. Once they see i don't have the same kind of guns like T.I. and figure out i am somewhat educated because i talk properly, they let me go. Same routine every time.

Now i could have a conniption fit every time a cop pulls me over for no reason. I could be the Angry Black Man. But we know the only place that would end me up is in jail. In those hideous jump suits. Everybody knows I'm not jail material. Those black and white stripes aren't my color. And, they are a tad bit late if you ask me. We won't even begin to talk about the foot wear.

As a black man, i know that white America is always looking for me to mess up. I know they are waiting for me to do something small and feeble that they can blow out of proportion, just to lock my black ass up. They are just WAITING for me to be a "statistic". And I'm not even FAMOUS. I'm just your average everyday 25 year old black man trying to get to and from work in my new car that i bought because i saw on Transformers. Nothing more, nothing less.

This is why Chris Brown pisses me off. Here we have one of the most talented kids of our generation, having temper tantrums and breaking windows like the ANGRY BLACK MAN (on Good Morning America i might add) America ALREADY thinks he is. All because he was caught off guard about questions regaurding The Rihanna Incident, which is something he will probably be asked about for as they both shall live. There are so many things we could ask Chris, but they want to talk about that. It did happen 2 years ago. And we are over it (if your not slap yourself, and get over it). But it did happen, and people WILL keep talking about it. Rihanna still gets asked questions about it (when they really should be asking her who her vocal coach is) and she answers them with poise. Chris needs to do the same. The media is GOING to exploit you when your famous. That's their job. Either use it to your advantage, or to your disadvantage. All the media does is REPORT it. So you have a tantrum, it will be reported, if you don't, guess what...there's nothing to report. Beyonce doesn't like questions about Jay Z. But when she gets them she does the best she can to work her way around them, and if she can't she ques her guard dog, Tina Knowles, who simply flashes the interviewer her gold House of Derion pistol that sits on her waist as a signal to shut the fuck up. Chris has resources to all the media training in the world. I'm sure that its hard when it feels like the world is against you, but guess what, they pretty much are.

I won't lie, it does suck that Charlie Sheen can brag about being on drugs and sleeping with porn stars and America applauds it. They think its hilarious. But when Lil Wayne does the same thing he's called a thug, and is ridiculed for it. If Charlie Sheen were a black man, the media would ROAST him. Unfortunately, its just the cards we are dealt. That's the life of a black man vs a white man. So we as the black man, have to do better then them. If i can't drive around my new car and not get pulled over every 3 days by some racist cop, then no Chris, you can't promote yourself and your (really good) album without some uncomfortable questions about your past. The only difference between us is that your getting millions of dollars to do it.

How black is black enough?

I'm from New Orleans, Louisiana. Born and raised. Home, where the creole's originated. The black people down here are literally all different shades. To be completely honest, it's to the point where its hard for us to distinguish pretty much any other race from black. I remember having a debate with one of my friends years ago about whether Eva Longoria was black or not when Desperate Housewives first came on air. She looked just like SO many of our friends. I knew she wasn't black, her last name was a dead give away for me, but Lacy swore she was black. After some research of course we discovered she isn't black. Same with Christina Milian, especially when that movie with the boy who's married to Mariah Carey came out. I even remember how devastated i was when i found out that Carmen Electra and Fergie WEREN'T at least half black! Seriously, it may sound crazy, but that's just how light skinned our blacks get down here in Louisiana. I always joke that i could never go anywhere else and have a race discussion because being from here has seriously altered my idea of what light skinned and dark skinned is.

For some reason or the other Beyonce and her skin color has been a hot topic this week. At one point people were actually saying she "bleached" her skin. I swore i wouldn't read comments under Necole Bitchie and The Young, Black, and Fabulous anymore, and i definitely should have gone wit my better judgment. Look, we have this issue every year with her. Beyonce lives in New York City. And in case you didn't know, when its cold outside, and the sun isn't out as much, people of color miraculously get lighter. Its not a very hard equation. Does Beyonce tan? OF COURSE. So does every person of color when they want to be a bit darker. Whats the big deal? Of course her new blond hair didn't help any. So because she's so light, she's of course...Michael Jackson.

"She wants to be Gwenth Paltrow's sister."

"She wants to be white."

"She just set black people back 100 years"

Now Beyonce is catching slack for having a black face in her most recent photo shoot with a french magazine L' Official. In the shoot she was dressed in African themed clothing, and wore a black face in tribute to a famous African Activist Fela Kuti. Well apparently Beyonce wasn't black enough to do this. The comments sections ERUPTED. And i again, went against my better judgment and read the ignorance. It's really to the point where you just have to laugh to keep from crying for our people. Beyonce is BLACK. She has never claimed to be anything else. Her grandmother, who's from New Orleans, was creole. Need a history lesson?

Creoles are the descendants of the french and Spanish colonial settlers before the Civil War. Of course, they mixed and mingled with the blacks, and the term Creoles of Color came about around the 19th century. So it comes down to a mix of french, spanish, black and some native American. Now a days the word is thrown around so loosely its appalling. Is creole black? YES. Its a sub-culture. Of course the one drop rule is very real in Louisiana, so if you look ANYTHING but white, white people consider you black. They get it. Why don't we? Halle Berry said it best. She defines her race by how America is going to view her. Yes she's half white, but we all know she can be called a "nigger" just like the rest of us. She isn't denying her other half, its just about being realistic. Now of course I'm sure in a conversation she would go into detail, but to the world, shes black, so she says shes black. Its not like Lala Vesquez who actually ISN'T black at all,but can play a black role in a film because she looks black. Halle looks black because she's half black.

I don't understand why WE can't seem to move past this color barrier. Every time a black person belittles another about their skin color we take another step backwards. Its like a domino effect. And i can't for the life of me understand why we can't move past this. We come in all shades and colors. No color makes you more beautiful or attractive then the next. Like i said, being from New Orleans can really alter how you view color and race. I won't lie and say that I've never been told "I usually don't date people as dark as you." But i feel like, hey, that's your loss. Lil Wayne who's from New Orleans, thinks "I betcha she looks better red". I'd be surprised with all the drugs in his system that he can even still distinguish the color of grass, let alone the skin color of the multiple random women he meets in the club at night and ends up sleeping with. But that's his preference, and his loss. I've meet people in this city with serious color complex issues, and i have to be so thankful that my mother raised my sister and I to believe we are beautiful no matter how dark we may get over the summer. I've meet people who only date light skin people, I've meet people who only date dark skin people. There are people who think if you have light skin and a different grain of hair your more BEAUTIFUL then others, even if you look like a pit bull. And then I've meet people who HATE every light skin person with a different grain of hair for the simple fact they themselves are not light skinned with some "good hair", because that's what they believe is beautiful, and they aren't satisfied in their own skin. Its crazy how we give something as SKIN COLOR and HAIR so much POWER! Especially when we have so many other issues we can be dealing with in our community. Why don't we put that same energy into trying to educate our black people. The number of black men in jail is rising more and more every year. Lets talk about that. But no, that's not what we want to talk about. We want to talk about how Beyonce is to light so she must want to be white.

I've said this before and I'll say it again. Sometimes i think being black is just one big social experiment. Made for the white people to sit back and laugh at us. Laugh as we tear each other down about who's hair is better or who's skin is lighter. They laugh at how when our people make money we spend it on cars and clothes and $50,000 chains instead of investing. We're never satisfied with what is done for us, we always want more. We are crabs in a bucket. And its disgusting. I would love to say "I can't wait to see the day when we as a race will do better", but being as real as Beyonce's pale skin, i know we won't. This is it for us. I don't think I've ever realized how TRULY bliss ignorance is, until now. I know we will never move past these issues. We will always see the short comings of the Oprah's and the Tyler Perry's of the world. Not the leaps and bounds they've made to be where they are today, or the barriers they have broken FOR us. Lil Wayne won't stop swearing that he bet his bitch looks better red, nor will he stop drinking whatever the fuck that is in his cup. The glass will always be half empty, her hair will always be "good" and her skin will always be to light to be right. And that's just that. Let the coonery continue.

**This is the que for the church choir to start singing**

Is Twitter Real?

Twitter has to be one of the funniest social networks ever created. At any given moment you can go ahead and say what ever comes to your random mind to basically the world (depending on how many followers you are) with 1 simple tweet. I love twitter. Especially when TV shows are on. Everyone's a comedian. Everyone has an opinion. And its always great to see everyone's opinion. The ones who matter, and then some that don't (if i'm following you, you matter to me, if I'm not, then...you get the point.)

Twitter also gives you the opportunity to bring yourself closer to people who you may have only been acquaintances with. I think it does that because when you choose to follow someone on twitter your basically saying "I'm interested in you." You get to see how this person really is (or how they want you to believe they are) and you have the option to comment on everything they say. Twitter has brought me closer with alot of people that i've known for years but never had much more then a "hi" and "bye" relationship with. At the same time, it's made me hate some people who have known for years, and i don't speak to them anymore. Thats when we utilize the unfollow button. That pretty much says "I'm no longer interested in you. Get out of my life and my time line with your foolishness. Fuck. Your. Thoughts." Right? Well that's what the person being unfollowed is going to believe at. So we'll just keep it at that.