God gave you a mouth to...

The Simple Formula to making a relationship work. Communication and Honesty. Love is already a given. Honesty is another blog. COMMUNICATION. Lets say it one more time people. COM-U-NI-CATION.

For some reason or the other, friends or lovers, people just do not know how to communicate with each other. You could have the 2 most intellectual people in the world. But for some reason when emotions are involved 2 people can't seem to TRY to understand each other. All because people feel before they listen. You could be completely right. You can talk to someone untill your blue in the face. That person is not going to hear anything your saying if they are not listening. It takes 2 people to have a conversation. One talking and one listening is not communicating. One talking and one trying to understand what one is SAYING is communicating.

I've lost so many friends because of the lack of communication. People get mad at one another for things said inbetween different people and never for 1 second think to go to the source. What do they do? They get mad, let the tension build up till its about to blow through the roof, and either A. Fight or B. stop speaking all together. When it could have all been resolved with 1 conversation. You'd be amazed at what opening your mouth could do. "Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see". It seems these days that people believe whatever they hear, and if they see it, well then they just KNOW the entire story. Enough to go run and tell all their friends. Who will tell their friends. Kinda like when Chris Brown and Rihanna had their scuffle. Everyone "HEARD" Rihanna hit Chris Brown 1st. Which gave him a free pass to beat her face in. Right. Chris never said it. Rihanna said she DIDN'T. But thats not what you "heard". So it must have happened! She had to hit him 1st! I heard he's nice! I heard she's a bitch! He's a star! He can dance! He's sexy! She's mean! She has herpies! I saw it on her lip! He couldn't have just clicked out and went crazy on her! Not my friend Chris Brown! Riiiighttttttt...

What i've realized is over the years is that communication comes with maturity. The older i get, the better i become at communicating with people. I've always been a little mature for my age as far as communicating. When i was a kid, i couldnt communicate with other children. So i just followed my mother around all day. I dreaded school. Acting interested in talking about sesame street and lamb chops. I was such a dick. I remember i told everyone their is no possible way a big fat white man with a beard could slid that big belly down, idk, 20 billion Chimneys in a matter of what, 10 hours? Nobody believed me. They didn't LISTEN. And then they would come to school crying when they found out old Fatty wasn't real. I told you so stupid! I always thought other kids were so dumb and did such silly things. Like who touches hot stoves or walk around glass with no shoes on their feet. If you parents TOLD you don't do it, why are you doing it? See, the lack of listening is why you have glass stuck in your foot, or a burned finger. I never could understand why it's so hard for people to communicate with each other. You explain your point of view, i explain mine, and in a reasonable tone. We listen to each other and...omg...look what happened? Problem solved!!! Congratulations! You 2 humans just accomplished what a flock of 50 birds do everyday! Your so smart!

Listen to your boyfriend or girlfriend people. LISTEN to their problem. Understand their problem (or try to). And then explain yours. And do it...i know this might be hard..but for God's Sake....do it without rolling your eyes or raising your voice. You'll be together so much longer. I promise.

Of course untill the cheating starts. But thats a different blog.

Oh No She Didn't!

Because Keri Hilson is actually talented i told myself i would try NOT to hate her after she made the "Turning me OFF" remix dissing Beyonce. I tried. I mean her hair-styles and her dance moves are already so pitiful, i think she embarrassed herself enough by even trying to ATTEMPT to talk shit about Beyonce in the 1st place. But then back-peddled and said "It was about all my haters." Bitch please. It was very obvious who you were talking about. But just b/c you tried to clean it up, i'm not going to totally delete you off my ipode. I put that behind me and got her album. Which was good by the way! And her new single "I like" is quite impressive. I love it.

Then the bitch gets wreck less. AGAIN. So supposedly she was flicking off some Beyonce stans that were getting a little out of control at a party she was at. And then updated her twitter saying
"I'm glad i have my real fans, Beyonce stans are crazy" or something along those lines.

Well, i can agree with you. We are crazy. BUT only when provoked. Keri Hilson, honey you provoked it. You CANNOT diss someone who paved the way for YOU! People love Beyonce b/c it is VERY rare that you see someone who is as talented and driven as she is. Her live performances are AMAZING and her voice is like no other. She works NON-stop to deliver. To be a black woman in a world full of Britney Spears fans, and to achieve the success that Beyonce has is phenomenal. So of course when people try to hate on her (especially someone who hasn't even put out an album yet) we are going to retaliate in Beyonce's defense. We all know she won't. She's way to controlled for that.

Needless to say i was late for my work-out this morning b/c i had to redo my entire playlist to replace some of Ms. Hilson's songs.

Signed
-Crazy Beyonce Stan-

From the Desk of Necole Bitchie

So i was reading some of Necole Bitchie's responses on formspring (kinda like an interview thing where you can ask her whatever you want) and i saw something that moved me in such a way i had to share it with you guys. I felt like she was talking directly to me.

What advice would you give somebody who is continually being put down about her future goals? Do u believe that sometimes people should just give up, or keep going even though you keep falling and hope for a day that it work out?

One of the books that changed my life was called "The Dream Giver". It was about someone named Ordinary that left the land of Familiar to pursue his dreams.

In the book "Nobodies" never left the land of Familiar but Ordinary didn't want to be like the rest of the nobodies so he packed his things to leave. When he reached the Border he ran into Bullies which were in the form of his Mother, Uncle and Brother. They discouraged him by telling him all the reasons why he shouldn't leave the land of familiar.

Right now you are Ordinary living in the land of familiar. I was there but I packed all my things up one day and moved out of my comfort zone (away from friends and family). Their concerns were no longer important to me as it was up to me to do what it took to make my dreams come true.

I've falling more than a few times. Moving city to city, living out of cars, sleeping on couches, but I never gave up and you shouldn't either.

My best advice is to DO YOU! I think a lot of people fall short of achieving their goals or doing what is true to them in life because they are scared of what other people may think. We get tied down by jobs we hate and see no real progression because of the fear of failing and people telling us “I told you so”. You are going to have people that tell you that what you want in life can not be achieved only because they are envious that you are even trying when they may have given up. You will have people that tell you that you shouldn’t go for it, just because they care about you enough that they don’t want to see you fail. But at the end of the day it’s about what is real to you and what you want. Don’t let anyone live your life for you. Do what’s real to you and everything will work out

It was so inspirational. Kind of let me know that i wasn't crazy for my recent actions.

You Devil Worshiper You!

So I'm a tad bit infatuated with this video. And the lyrics are nasty. I love em.

But i also posted this to discuss what people are calling "demonic".

I personally, think that people are not ready for anyone that brings something different. People say Lady Gaga worships the devil. People say b/c Rihanna has gone dark and edgy she worships the devil. And now Jay-Z worships the devil. It's amazing to me. Like when did artistic/different equal the devil? I mean they even say BEYONCE sold her soul to the devil, and she consistently talks about how God has blessed her so much. It just amazes me the things people can take from something and run with it. In my mind if your successful and black in that industry people are going to find something negative to stick to you anyway. "Devil Worshiper" is the new thing.

Fuck, they would call Alicia Keys a devil worshiper but they found "home-wrecker" 1st.

"Man grow the fuck up, c'mon lemme coach you"

Black Royalty.

How can you not love them? The Best Rapper Alive and the Queen B. They make you want to be the best and your craft. I just adore these two.

These Boots are made for...

I said i was going to be adventurous and find me some boots that i could tuck. These are the results. I liked them. Not to much, but just enough. Of course my buddy Wilfred (and fellow shoe collector) had to beat me out. He got these other pair below. He always out does me. Hmph. Both boots are by Kenneth Cole.

Happy New Year!

It's a New Decade! Start it off right!